So I have been non stop researching adoption anniversary or gotcha day. Which is the day you "got" your child in your home. Some decide it's the day the adoption was finalized. It can be a celebration with just the child and immediate family or something a little bigger. It's all up to you. Some decide not to celebrate it. Whichever it's anyone's choice. I am leaning towards celebrating it even if it's just me and my husband and the child/children with a few other family members or friends. Maybe. It's unwritten at this point and our decision. I am amazed why so many "hate" dislike gotcha day. To each his own.
It was part of the workshop that said birthdays maybe hard and to consider gotcha day. For some children the only day they were with their birth parents was the day they were born. Some were immediately placed into foster care. When you start to see that that day for some is more of a mourning and more of the day my birth parents gave me up rather than the day they entered the world. Gotcha day is the day that you share with that child the day no one can take from you. The day you say you were always in my heart, and today is our day that we will celebrate every year. One woman in my support group adopted a daughter from China. It was suggested to get 18 items and every year on that gotcha day give her one of those items. What do I get a child from the US or New Jersey? I think I am leaning towards making a "gotcha day" book every year do a "page" about what's happened from that year. Jewelry is an idea. IF it's a girl a charm bracelet and every year add a charm so that it's something to keep forever. I don't know I have time since we are trapped in this application process.
Please say a prayer that my records finally come in.
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